What to do when someone is trying to fix something?
Take their perspective (they’re in pain and need you to soothe them), calm your own frustration, and give them what they want. And just because someone is trying to problem solve with you, doesn’t mean they’re not listening and they don’t care about your feelings.
Is it possible to fix everything all the time?
Not only is no one happy all the time, but people, including our loved ones, need to learn on their own to develop skills for coping well with life’s inevitable ups and downs. And so, my fixer actions may have done my children a disservice.
Who is the fixer in the movie Michael Clayton?
In the movie Michael Clayton, George Clooney is employed by a law firm, but not as an attorney. He’s a fixer. When the law firm makes a mess of something, his sole job is to make the problem go away—by whatever means necessary. As I watched the movie several years ago, I thought: “Oh no.
Is there such a thing as a fixer?
None of us can always get what we want, and no one’s life is smooth sailing all the time. If you recognize yourself as a fixer—whether it be with family, friends, people at work, or even yourself—you might craft some equanimity phrases of your own to speak silently to yourself.
Can you fix or solve other people’s problems?
You simply can’t fix or solve other people’s problems and trying to do so often just makes things worse. Whose problem is it? Most people accept the notion that they can’t control other people or solve their problems.
Take their perspective (they’re in pain and need you to soothe them), calm your own frustration, and give them what they want. And just because someone is trying to problem solve with you, doesn’t mean they’re not listening and they don’t care about your feelings.
Not only is no one happy all the time, but people, including our loved ones, need to learn on their own to develop skills for coping well with life’s inevitable ups and downs. And so, my fixer actions may have done my children a disservice.
None of us can always get what we want, and no one’s life is smooth sailing all the time. If you recognize yourself as a fixer—whether it be with family, friends, people at work, or even yourself—you might craft some equanimity phrases of your own to speak silently to yourself.
What happens when you don’t fix people?
For one, you’ll feel more tolerant when you aren’t expecting people to do what you say. You’ll feel more compassion when you hear what the person is grappling with in their mind. You’ll enjoy the relationship better as you build mutual respect. Quit fixing and start believing in others. Be curious to see what they know before you offer your advice.
How to deal with difficult people in Your Life?
If you know someone who seems to deal with difficult thoughts or feelings often (as demonstrated in their behavior), don’t wait for a situation to help them create positive feelings. Give them a compliment for something they did well.
Do You challenge yourself to live your best life?
I’ve challenged myself to try new experiences and meet new people, putting myself in situations that previously I probably would have avoided. It turns out, challenging yourself can lead to a lot of personal growth! In this post, I’m sharing 22 ways to challenge yourself to live your best life, as well as sharing WHY you should challenge yourself.
What’s the best way to fix your self?
1. Forgive yourself. You can’t be happy or find meaning in your days or peace of mind unless you have forgiven yourself. To forgive is to know that it was what it was but it doesn’t have to be what it will be.
Do you need to stop trying to fix yourself?
Shannon, you should stop buying all that self-help crap and going off to retreats to find yourself. You are not perfect, never will be, and no one in the world is either. You make mistakes; we all do. Just live with it. You are a warm, intelligent woman—just live the best honest life you can.
What’s the best way to fix my life?
I’ve realized it’s so easy for me to get caught up in this idea that I need to be perfect. If I only drink enough green smoothies, go to yoga class, and chant an hour each day, then I can be happy.
Do you think it’s hard to be yourself?
You can be shy and opinionated and sarcastic and emotional and analytical and none of those things should define you. When you take a stance, have an opinion, stand up for yourself or disagree, people might not like it. It’s as if they’re saying “be yourself, just not too much.” Be yourself but don’t oppose me. Be nice but not too nice.