How to understand problems before trying to solve them?
And yet very few people do step #1. The next time you’re in a meeting to address a problem, pay attention to how much time is spent discussing or understanding the problem vs. how much time is spent on solutions. If your experience is typical, perhaps 30 seconds of an hour-long meeting about the problem will be spent understanding the problem.
What happens when we don’t understand the problem?
So what happens when we don’t understand the problem? When the problem is not well-understood, any “solutions” only create new problems. In fact there’s no guarantee the solutions will address the problem at all!
What does it mean when someone says ” I don’t understand “?
The phrase suggests that you don’t truly understand what the other person feels at all. (Really, how could you?) It suggests that you feel the need to turn the conversation toward your experience, not his or hers, and that ultimately you don’t really care about that person’s concerns after all.
What do people tell each other about their problems?
People tell each other not to “whine” about problems or not to “dwell” on them. People are told to “get over it” and to “be strong,” meaning “don’t feel anything—and if you do, don’t talk about it or show it.”
How can I get people to understand me?
The more you understand yourself, the more clearly you present yourself to others, the more they can understand you. So spend time learning about yourself. Make lists of what you like and what you don’t like. Notice what things actually make you happy during a normal day versus what things you assume should make you happy.
How to deal with people who don’t understand you?
Yourbody languagecommunicates almost as much as your words. Uncross your arms when you talk to others, it shows them you want to be open. Try to relax your shoulders and smile softly to stop any natural tendency to frown. 3. Slow down and switch perspective. When we are worked up we tend to revert to habits.
When do you think,’nobody understands me’?
When we are worked up we tend to revert to habits. This includes the habit of assuming, ‘Nobody understands me”. If you feel the thought rising, extricate yourself from the situationand take a moment to slow down. Take a few deep breaths, perhaps even try a 2-minute mindfulness break.
Why do people not understand what you’re saying?
People need to know the outcome that you’re seeking or the result you want, Eventoff says. If you’re not getting the result you want, go back to whether you were clear about what, exactly, those results should have been. “It might not be because they don’t like what you’re saying.