Why is change so hard to deal with?
The consequences of fixed mindset thinking can make it more likely for you to experience change as a threat, in part because rather than try to adapt to or embrace change, you may shut down or become avoidant. This type of response can make change moments even harder to manage or overcome.
Is it possible to change your mindset about change?
The bottom line: Whether you perceive significant change moments in your life as a threat or as a challenge greatly alters your emotional, physical, and mental experiences. It turns out that it’s possible to shift how we experience difficult change moments through our mindsets.
When do we experience change as a challenge?
However, when we experience change as a challenge, for example, as an interesting opportunity to learn or do something new, this is when we are more likely to experience eustress because the new environmental demands seem within our abilities and limits. During eustress, our bodies also respond efficiently.
Why do people get upset when things change?
This is when we experience detrimental effects, or distress. Our hearts beat faster, and vascular resistance makes it harder to push blood through our circulatory system. In other words, our physiological resources are not efficiently mobilized. We also are likely to experience negative emotions like feeling anxious or frustrated.
How to deal with change when change is hard?
Taking care of your basic needs is absolutely crucial if you are in a period of change. These needs are like the foundations of our physical and mental health; without them, we’re unlikely to be able to process additional challenges in a healthy way. My non-negotiables are sleep, hygiene, exercise, and healthy food.
Is it hard to change one behavior at a time?
We try to change too much. If you can commit to changing one behavior long-term, and really make it stick, that’s commendable. But trying to take on multiple behaviors at once is a surefire way to send all of them into a ditch.
What happens if you try to change something and fail?
If you try to change anything and fail, you’ve just proven one of the sturdiest truths of behavior change: failing at least once is part of the process, and it’s probably going to be more than once. Failing reveals more to you about what deserves your attention and energy in the next round, and the next.
What’s the hardest thing to change in Your Life?
Changing our behavior is a self-engineering challenge with few equals. I’m talking about long-term, sustained change, not short-run bursts that sputter out before real change happens. Whether the change involves diet, exercise, habits, dependencies or anything else, changing behavior is one of the hardest things any of us will ever try to do.